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25 Things To Do Before You Turn 25

1. Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize that they actually have your best interests in mind or you forgive them for being flawed human beings, you can’t happily enter adulthood with that familial brand of resentment.

2. Kiss someone you think is out of your league; kiss models and med students and entrepreneurs with part-time lives in Dubai and don’t worry about if they’re going to call you afterward.

3. Minimize your passivity.

4. Work a service job to gain some understanding of how tipping works, how to keep your cool around assholes, how a few kind words can change someone’s day.

5. Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a bunch of strangers you’ve just met.

6. Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’ Bachelor’s Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be patient, work with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in this together.

7. If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account. You never know when you might be unemployed or in desperate need of getting away for a few days. Even $10 a week is $520 more a year than you would’ve had otherwise.

8. Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning your friends, forgetting the internet.

9. Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.

10. Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you want them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to them. Say, I want you. I want to be with you.

11. Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high heels if you hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted by the way you smell the morning after; stop wasting entire days on your couch if you’re going to complain about missing the sun.

12. Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your hometown. These places may or may not be here forever; you definitely won’t be.

13. Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to.

14. Think you know yourself until you meet someone better than you.

15. Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a person should be.

16. Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your every move, find and talk to people who have overcome them. Don’t settle for experiencing .000002% of what the world has to offer because you’re afraid of getting on a plane.

17. Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex.

18. Stop hating yourself.

19. Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to.

20. Take advantage of health insurance while you have it.

21. Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means writing a gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work you love or telling your boss why you deserve a raise.

22. Date someone who says, “I love you” first.

23. Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.” This will be unsuccessful. Places do not change people. Instead, do a lot of solo drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty hostels, and come home when you start to miss it.

24. Suck it up and buy a Macbook Pro.

25. Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of vomiting. You’re young, you’re resilient, there are other jobs and relationships and friends if you’re patient and open.

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So it goes….

—Slaughterhouse Five

KSU1111.

Guess who’s probably going to fail her KSU Seminar class..

THIS GIRL.

Balloons.

What the hell? I haven’t written on tumblr in so long, but school’s started so back to tumblr it is for me. I really want some balloons in my room. My dorm room is so bland and makes me lonely, so balloons would might turn my room around and make it a little more exciting. The VMA’s are starting in 44:13 minutes, and I’m sitting here waiting for them to start. It’s been almost 2 weeks since I’ve been in college (more specifically Kennesaw, since I started saying I was in college once I started getting acceptance letters and after graduation). I really don’t think I’ve gotten the experiences of college since I’ve been here, so I don’t really get what all the hype is about. I hope things change soon though, bec. I don’t know if I can get used to how I’m feeling. It’s kinda gloomy. I’m so good at being alone in Columbus, I feel so weird not being okay about being alone. Everyone around me hangs out in groups, with friends, and me? I’m just here. 

But forgetting about all the depressing stuff, one more week of classes and I’ll be home again with my friends, to my bed, and family. It’s like everything that matters to me is still at home and I can’t wait to get back to it. 

I need to vent.

I’m so tired of how I’m being treated lately. Maybe it’s just today, but idk, idc, it’s pissing me off. I’m tired of how selfish people are. I guess I’m just as selfish and self-centered seeing as to how I’m sitting here whining about my day. I’m trying my hardest to be hard-headed me, but lately it’s just making me insane. I’m trying to be the bigger person, but I’m so ready to punch someone in the face. It isn’t fair for me to be treated as if I’m no one. I’m someone. I’m a human being. Not someone to mistreat. 

I definitely don’t need to sit here and just put up with it. I’ve got just as much freedom to leave if I want.

Color Quiz

Your Existing Situation

"Insecure with himself, needs stable roots and emotional security. Seeking an environment which provides comfort and few problems, but is reluctant to put any effort or energy into it."

Your Stress Sources

Feels she is stuck in a situation in which she cannot control and is unable to obtain the sense of acceptance she desires. she is unwilling to place herself completely in the hands of others; and is avoiding hopeless conditions and disappointing relationships. Feels something is missing from her life and is becoming impatient in trying to discover what is missing. she is restless and instable due to her urge to escape the current state she is in.

Your Restrained Characteristics

"Has high emotional expectations and desires to be the center of attention, which makes it difficult to find a satisfying relationship. her reserved, cautious nature makes her emotionally distant. "

"Feels she is not receiving her fair share and is unable to rely on anyone for support or sympathy. she keeps her emotions bottled up, leaving her quick to take offense to small things. she tries to make the best of her situation."

Your Desired Objective

"Feels as if she has been held back from many things, and that other things have always tried to dominate her. she now feels she has to make up for lost time by living an overly intense lifestyle."

Your Actual Problem

Is afraid she will be held back from obtaining the things she wants leading her to act out with a hectic intensity.

Your Actual Problem #2

Feeling anxious and restless frustration toward current situation or unfulfilled emotional requirements are causing stress. she tries escaping by throwing herself into activities directed at personal success or experiencing new things.

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